Adoption does impact every part of adopted child's (adoptees') life, which I totally believe and understand. That does not mean adoption is the magnet for all that goes wrong in life. There are plenty of people that have the same issues and problems that adoptees have. What is the reason for their problems? I find it so strange when people relate things that happen in my life to being adopted when I do not see it that way in the slightest. This can lead us to wonder do some adoptees really believe that most of the things that have gone wrong in their lives or issues that they are dealing stems from being adopted. Could it have something to do with society telling us it is so? When people hear things often enough it becomes easier and easier to believe. When ppl make reference to my mistakes, and my being adopted that there is some connection between the two. “You were looking for that missing connection since you were adopted.” “You have relationship issues because of feeling abandoned.” These are a few things I have heard from people maybe not worded as above but more or less the same meaning. It took me awhile to understand that I was no more messed up than the person not adopted.. This really does not have a thing to do with being adopted. I was no different than most young adults that wanted to start their life. I was just one of the ones that made a mistakes. (No one's PERFECT!!!..Deal With It!!)
At this point in my life I realized that it was about my choices, and being adopted was just part of me, not the reasons for the problems or mistakes. We all have to assume responsibility for our choices in life and learn from them. Looking for an event or a person to blame our choices and issues on is not going to help work through any issues we may have. 
I'm so blessed to have what i had now. A wonderful, Supporting and Caring Families Who never give up on ME and continuosly Loving me. I'm grateful and thankful to GOD for everything HE gave to me.
2 comments:
my dear7111,
that's a part of life that we had to go through. just ignore the stupid,unmature thinkers who always used ur past life as an excuse to the prolems.life's go on man!!
I think i understand of what u've been through deannysia cos i'd been through that phase.my ex husband will always throw the blames to me for any problems we had before. He used to said that "U bring SUI to me cos u don't have a true parents"...So sabar aje la. He will regret one day. TRUST me on dat
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